Plan for safety

Developing a personal safety plan

A personal safety plan is a crucial tool to help protect both you and your children. It prepares you for the possibility of future violence and abuse, guiding you on enhancing your safety, whether you choose to remain within the relationship or decide to leave.

How to keep yourself safe

While you cannot stop your partner's violence and abuse—only they can do that—you can take steps to increase your and your children's safety. You may already be practicing some protective measures. Recognising any patterns in the violence can help you plan effectively.

Strategic planning

Plan how you might respond in different situations, including emergencies. Anticipate various scenarios and consider your responses.

Evaluate your options

Think critically about the various options available to you, both immediate and long-term.

Be prepared to leave

Always be ready to leave your home in an emergency. This includes having an escape plan that you and your children can follow.

Emergency training for children

Teach your children to dial 999 in emergencies, ensuring they know their full name, address, and what to communicate to the operator.

Seek supportive neighbours

Identify trustworthy neighbours who can offer refuge in an emergency or call the police if they suspect a violent incident. Make them aware of your situation discretely.

Pack emergency bag

Prepare an emergency bag for you and your children, storing it in a secure location away from home, like at a trustworthy neighbour's or friend's house—preferably someone not connected to your partner.

Financial preparedness

Keep a small amount of money on hand at all times, which should include change for public transport and phone calls.

Rehearse your exit

Regularly practice your escape plan to ensure you and your children can exit quickly and safely if needed.

Access to phone

Ensure you always know where the nearest phone is located. If you have a mobile phone, keep it charged and on you at all times.

Important contacts

Carry important and emergency contacts with you, including domestic violence support services, your GP, social worker (if applicable), your children’s school, your solicitor, and the Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247.

Identify low-risk areas

If you feel an attack is imminent, move to a lower-risk area in your home—one with exits and phone access. Avoid places like the kitchen or garage where weapons might be accessible, and spaces where you could be trapped, such as the bathroom.